Hardest part about change

The Hardest Part about Making Changes

So I’m tattling on myself a little bit.

I’m going to give you some tips that I think are going to help you out.

There’s a lesson in this for you.

The hardest part about making changes, of getting results, of improving or changing the results you’re getting in your business and starting to get in the direction that you want to get on, the hardest part for us is simply the fact that everything comes down to what we do.

Everything comes down to what we do on a daily basis, our actions, which means our habits. The hardest part is developing the right consistent habits of action.

I am super guilty of this

It’s not easy for me either to this, and I’ve gone through the process several times where it’s like, “Okay, I know what I need to do. I know what my action steps need to be to make the changes I want to make in my life, in my business, in anything, and it’s creating new daily habits and being consistent with it.” Everybody can get excited about.

It doesn’t matter what it is.

If it’s building your business, it might be making a couple new contacts each day or it might be working on getting to your events or whatever the case is, showing presentations, whatever habit you need to get into. It might be making daily videos, which has been a difficult one for me to get in the habit of.

Consistency breeds habit

I’m going to tell on myself with this one.

I’m either doing a video or I’m not.

Being consistent in my videos has been difficult for me, but I know it helps you.

I know it does a lot of good things for my business. I need to pull forward here. Bear with me.

It is what it is. You have to recognize it and fix it.

Here’s what happened. I started getting pretty consistent with my videos. I went to Hawaii, went on vacation, got a little less consistent, got back, and I was out of the habit, so you haven’t seen me very much, have you?

This is what happens to everybody

If you join a gym, it’s the same deal. I talk about this kind of analogy all the time.

Fitness, it’s probably one of the best analogies that most people can understand and relate to. Success in your fitness is no different than success in your business. What most people do is they get all excited and they’re going to make changes in their health and in their physique, and they’re going to start going to the gym.

They maybe go for the first day, and they really do great. They go for the second day, and they push it pretty good. They go for the third day. Now they’re hurting, so they’re maybe not pushing quite as hard. Then the fourth day, if they’re there by the end of the week, they’ve done five, six days straight, they’ve done more than 90% of people will do.

Most people are finding an excuse or a reason or something comes up.

Consistency, Consistency, Consistency…

I want you to understand something.

It’s not that you’re bad.

It’s not that you’re a bad person. It’s not that you’re a loser or anything like that because you struggle to keep the progression going.

I struggle with it, too. It’s just our nature because what happens is we get into patterns of activity, of the way we do things in what we do, and when we want to make a change, we’re fighting against that pattern.

The first couple days when we’re personally motivated from within, it’s easier, but then as you move, as you get further down the process until you’ve done it consistently. Whatever the that activity needs to be to make the change you want to make, talk to a coach and find out what that next step is for you because it’s not the same for everybody. Find out what the next step is for you that you need to make a daily habit or a consistent new activity that you’re doing or more of what you’re doing, in most cases.

For most people, it’s not that you’ve never done the things that you need to do to succeed.

You just haven’t done enough of it consistently enough over time

That’s the big secret.

For most of you, you’ve probably done at some point most, if not every, step at least once that it takes to succeed in your business.

The only difference between you and those who are killing it, is that they do it more and they do it more consistently and they do it whether or not they feel like it. Developing that habit is not always easy. We fall back into our own patterns.

Keep to a routine

I went on vacation to Hawaii, which changed my normal routine because I was out there in Hawaii enjoying the time with my family, which I’m very glad to be able to do, but it changed my normal routine and it let me fall out of a new activity that I was doing more consistently, which was shooting video for you guys.

I was shooting a new video pretty much every other day, you had a video from me going for a couple solid, two, three weeks.

I went there and I let that disrupt my pattern.

I got back, and guess what? I was out of doing it every couple days.

Next thing you know, a couple weeks goes by and you’re like, “Oh, crap. I haven’t been doing what I’m supposed to do.”

This is normal.

You’re not a loser if that happens to you

Realize that, but what you need to do is you need to be able to acknowledge it.

The best way to be able to stay on top of those things is to have a coach, a running mate, a partner that you’re working with that is keeping you accountable, not in a, “I‘m the principal. I’m the school teacher. I’m going to rap Johnny on his knuckles if he doesn’t do his homework,” kind of way, but in a vested interest, we’re doing this together kind of way where you’re counting on each other.

When you have that kind of a relationship going on, you don’t want to drop the ball for that person because they’re working for you, too.

They’re working for your benefit, too. That is the best kind of mentorship relationship to help you in your business.

Get your groove back

A couple keys, figure out what your next daily consistent activity needs to be.

Talk to a coach.

Find out what that is.

Develop that relationship with that coach, and do it.

Do them one at a time.

Another tip here for you guys is that a lot of times what we tend to do is we get all fired up about improving our lives and improving our finances and improving our fitness and improving our relationships and all these things.

It comes to a head because you’re fed up, you’re sick and tired of being sick and tired, and we get all jacked up, and then we try to do everything all at once. We start going to the gym. We start making contacts for our business and showing presentations.

We start trying to fit date night in there so we can improve our relationship with our spouse.

You have all these different things. We’re trying to do them all at the same time.

We start trying to get our reading in every single day.

We start trying to make our phone calls every day.

We start trying to listen to an audio every single day, following podcasts, watching videos, getting in training.

We’re trying to do everything all at once.

What happens is you burn yourself out because you’re coming up against that resistance of your normal patterns. I would encourage you or recommend to you, pick one area of activity and improvement at a time.

One at a time.

Focus on that until it becomes a consistent habit that you don’t even have to think about it, and then add another and then add another and then add another and build on it.

You’ll get way more results over a shorter period of time. It might sound counterintuitive.

Won’t I try to get more results if I try to do it all at once? No.

You won’t because you’ll burn yourself out and you won’t be consistent with any of those activities long enough for them to produce a result.

Pick one.

Master it.

Pick another one.

Master it.

Pick another one.

Make it part of your life.

That’s how you change your life around. Typically, it’s a 6-12 month process. You’re not going to change your whole life around in 30 days. It’s not going to happen. You can change pieces of your life, areas of your life.

You build a confidence because of that change that you made. That gives you the confidence to change another area, and you build on that over time. Overnight successes happen through hard work over time when no one’s noticing.

I hope these few tips helps you out. It helped me out to get it off my chest. I felt bad. I was like, “You know, I have not been serving these guys the way I should and the way I want to, and I got to get back in the habit of it.”

Three fingers pointing back.

I’m guilty.

Let’s do this together.

Let’s get consistent

What’s the one activity that you know you need to do that you’ve been putting off, that you haven’t, that you’ve been afraid of or that you just haven’t been consistent with?

What’s the number one activity, the one thing that you’re going to focus on being consistent with over the next 30 days?

What is the one thing you’re going to focus on making a habit of, a consistent activity?

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About the Author Jason

Jason is a 3rd generation network marketer and founder of Network Marketing Accelerator. He and his family are collaboratively responsible for generating a multiple 7-figure income in their network marketing businesses. A coach and mentor to hundreds of successful business owners across multiple verticals, Jason is also a co-founder of OuterBox Solutions, a premier eCommerce Web Design firm.