Idea of Success Vs. Reality of Success

Idea of Success Vs. Reality of Success

There’s a big difference between loving the idea of success and understanding and loving what it actually takes to get it.

There is so much to discuss about being an entrepreneur, being a business owner and about being successful.

All this information is all over the Internet.

You’re following it.

You follow all the gurus.

You follow all these guys.

You’re listening to podcasts.

I do the same thing to a certain extent.

At some point, we have to get out of the mode of just loving the idea of being successful and understanding and falling in love with the idea of doing the work to be successful.

I‘ve talked about this before.

Successful people love the battle.

We fall in love with the work.

We fall in love with the war.

We fall in love with the struggle.

We fall in love with the fight.


It makes the victory that much better.

It’s so easy to be in love with the idea of becoming successful.

It’s so easy to sit around and dream about it’ll be great when we have all this stuff,when we’re able to do all these things.

It will be.

Don’t get me wrong.

I’m not picking on dreaming. I’m not picking on setting goals and having a vision for where you want to do.

Don’t misunderstand me. There’s a big difference between dreaming about your success and being in love with that idealistic picture that you’re creating in your head and being willing to do what it takes to get there.

I’ve spent a lot of years dreaming about what it would be like to be successful, dreaming about what it would be like to have and do the things I’ve wanted to do for myself, for my family, for those around me, to enrich my life and those that I cared about.

Now I’m starting to enter into an era where I’m thinking much beyond that. There’s a book called The Third Circle Theory by Pejman Ghadimi (PJ) he runs the Secret Entourage.

It’s a very interesting book, it talks about different circles or processes we go through in life our journey of success and becoming more and more influential.

I’m starting to understand some of that stuff. It’s pretty deep. I’ve got to give PJ some credit. The guy is very intelligent.

What we don’t understand sometimes is that we get so involved in the idea of what we want and what we want to achieve and we get some satisfaction out of just thinking about it.

We go online.

We look at cars and we research the dream car of our lives or we go online and we start looking at houses or start looking at travel and things we want to do. We put these things on our vision board. That’s good if it’s going to motivate you.

Unfortunately, what I did for a lot of years, and I know a lot of people do, too, we get too much emotional satisfaction just out of looking at the things that we want to have.

But we don’t take the steps to get it. I don’t know if that makes any sense to you guys. It makes sense to me and it’s on my heart tonight to share with you.

Don’t allow yourself to get emotionally resolved or emotionally justified by just thinking or visioning your success.

Don’t allow yourself to pretend

It’s like we put on these VR goggles. We’re dreaming and so we’ve got our VR or virtual reality goggles on of what our dream is. We get some satisfaction out of that somehow, like we got to experience it even though we weren’t there.

It’s like showing up in the room, if you’re in a home business, and you’re showing up in the room of business owners, successful people.

Even if you’re not in a home business, you can go to an event, a personal development event or anything and just by showing up and being in the room, you think that you’re part of that momentum that’s already happening there, that you now are somehow, by osmosis more successful because you’ve been around people who are on the road to success.

The reality is that’s not true

The reality is, by being in the room, you have the opportunity to learn and to meet people. That’s all great stuff. You can pick up things but you’ve got to go home and put them to work yourself.

You can’t be emotionally justified by just surrounding yourself with others’ success.
You can be inspired.

Inspiration is good.

You can believe more, maybe, by hearing others’ stories, but if you’re emotionally justified by that, you’re releasing the energy that you need to be able to actually go do the work.

I want you to hold onto that energy.

Don’t release it haphazardly. Don’t release it because it makes you feel better by just going and looking at it.

I’m a car guy. I know that’s not everybody’s thing and I know it’s very cliché and materialistic but screw it. That’s my thing.I like things that go fast with motors and they’re really loud. It’s not very eco-friendly, although Tesla’s got some good things going on.

I could go to exotic car dealerships or resellers or whatever and I could almost become emotionally justified. I could go there and pretend like I was there to buy one in my head.

That’s visioning to a point but if, when you leave that dealership or when you leave that environment that has inspired you to believe that you can have more, and it doesn’t inspire you to go do more work, it doesn’t inspire you to become more creative in solving problems and producing solutions and to getting ahead to where you want to go, if it doesn’t do that, you’ve missed the point.

What you’ve done is you’ve now justified or satisfied that desire in your head by exposing yourself to it and pretending that you’ve achieved it versus letting it drive you to achieve more.

Yes, I love cars. We all love stuff. Let’s not BS each other here. There’s a higher purpose. There’s more that we can do. I get that, but that’s a whole other conversation. Maybe I’ll get into that some other time.

Spiritualists love to get into the idea that cars and all this stuff is just so materialistic and you’re working so hard for stuff that just fades away into dust.

I get that, but it causes you to stretch yourself and become more than you are. It puts something out there. It inspires you and by making yourself become more than you are and accomplish more than you are, in order to do that, in order to accomplish those things, you have to impact more people.

You have to become a better person in order to get those things.

In the process of doing that, you develop a bigger vision and more financial capability to do the bigger, more important things.

There’s no honor in being broke with a great idea of how you can solve humanity’s problems

Where there’s honor in building yourself wealth and capability to be able to make a real impact.

What I encourage you to do and what I finally decided to do and figured out was to not allow myself to become emotionally justified by my dreams, to let myself be inspired by them but not emotionally justified by them.

I hope you understand the difference. While I was inspired, then to take that energy and apply it to the work.

I get excited about the work, about being a warrior, about being a winner, about being somebody who goes out there and makes a difference.

That’s what inspires me and I hope it inspires you, too.

I hope it inspires you to make a difference. I hope it inspires you to go and take action on your dreams and to not let you visiting them become a virtual reality that gives you that satisfaction.

It should do just the opposite. It should make you uncomfortable.

There is something I was told a long time ago: You need to work like it depends on you and pray like it depends on God.

Work like it depends on you and pray like it depends on God.

Work like it depends on everything that you do every single day but believe and vision like how you think and what you think is what will happen.

Both are true. Without both, the great thing probably won’t happen. It takes both.

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About the Author Jason

Jason is a 3rd generation network marketer and founder of Network Marketing Accelerator. He and his family are collaboratively responsible for generating a multiple 7-figure income in their network marketing businesses. A coach and mentor to hundreds of successful business owners across multiple verticals, Jason is also a co-founder of OuterBox Solutions, a premier eCommerce Web Design firm.